There is a movement that has been sweeping the nation over the past few years. It's all about being positive, focusing on the reality you want to have and keeping your energy up. It sounds amazing in theory, and on the surface it makes sense. Happy people have less stress, less inhibitions, and less health issues. If everyone could be happy, wouldn't they just do it? Wouldn't they just learn how to shut out the negative thoughts that hold them back? Of course they would!
As a hypnotherapist who teaches people how to rewire their subconscious mind for success, this is something I've given a lot of thought to. I don't want to promote an ideology that really only works easily for people who have a natural disposition for optimism. In fact, studies have shown that the positivity movement can actually increase feelings of stress and guilt in those struggling with things like terminal illness, depression, and anxiety.
Don't get me wrong, the positivity movement isn't wholly a bad thing. It has some interesting ideas and good exercises. But it should be taken with a grain of salt as sometimes it can be a band aid solution to a real problem. Whether or not you struggle with thinking positively, consider this: well adjusted individuals are those who simply take care of themselves.
When you take proper care of yourself, you have established boundaries, higher sense of confidence and inner peace, and healthy coping skills in times of stress. If the positivity movement works for you, that is amazing. If it doesn't, it's not the cure-all and there is something out there better suited for you. Most importantly, you are not a failure for not being able to think positively in times of stress. Some people deal with their stress by focusing on the silver lining. Other people take a space from the situation in order to come back to it with a clear mind. Some people do something entirely different. The key is to find what works for you.